What is proper etiquette for discussing our job situations as 3Ls? On the one hand, you are not supposed to ask people if they have a job in case it is a touchy subject and on the other hand, you are not supposed to tell people if you have a job so as to not rub it in.

The Lovely Leslie

Dear Lovely,

You are right.  These are times when we law students need help in becoming sensitive human beings.  We may be armed with neurotic wit and trained in oral advocacy, but some of us lack that necessary inner voice that wards us from social catastrophe.  We sincerely congratulate un-expecting women on their pregnancies, ask "Aren't you worried about growing bald?" when people tell us they're investment bankers, and reassure our single friends "Don't worry! I know tons of married people uglier than you."  We truly mean well.  It just doesn't sound like it.

I think the only way to deal with the job issue is to let your friends know that you do mean well, and that you care.  Consideration is the root of all proper etiquette, and it is no different when it comes to asking about jobs.  Some people don't want to talk about their job situation, and others do.  I suggest you avoid actively inquiring about a person's job status, but being open to listen if someone wants to talk about it.  If you have a job, definitely let your friends know.  They'll want to congratulate your good fortune.  Just don't throw yourself a parade.  You'll disturb everyone else filling out their applications.

But, feel free to indulge your triumph and rub it in the face of non-human entities.  Go to a place where you can be alone, raise your fists in remembrance of all your rejection letters, wave them in the air, and shout, "Suck it FRP!!!!! I got a JOB!!!!!"

Sincerely,

Yunji